The Self Care Series: Are You Pouring From An Empty Cup?

Do you feel like you’re constantly giving to others and leaving yourself as an afterthought? Do you remember the last time you did anything just for yourself? Do you feel tired, drained or run down? 

Maybe you’re just in need of a top up?

Picture yourself as a big cup, full of life and vitality. When we give our time, love and effort to others, we pour a little from our cup each time. Every day, we give constantly to our jobs, partners, kids, friends, family, studies and anything else we might have in our lives. This is ok, as long we top ourselves back up. But this can be a lot harder than it sounds. Some of us still continue trying to keep giving even when we’re down to our very last few drops.

But we cannot pour from an empty cup.

I know I have said this phrase before, but it’s something I am so adamant about repeating because like many of you, even I need a reminder of this from time to time!

What’s wrong with constantly trying to pour from an empty cup? It drains you, emotionally and physically. It tires you, stresses you and runs you down. You can even start to become resentful towards the things that you are giving your time and effort to.

Being tired, stressed and run down all the time can also lead to a multitude of health problems – digestive issues, sleep problems, adrenal fatigue, hormone imbalances and emotional/mental health problems just to name a few.

It’s not selfish to put yourself first sometimes.

You can’t look after anyone else, if you don’t feel the best yourself. You can’t do your best in what you’re working towards in life, if you don’t feel your best.

So how do we stop ourselves from running on empty? By finding time to top ourselves back up so we can feel full of love, life and vitality again.

Self care is the best way to top yourself back up and you can do it in so many different ways. Here are just a few:

  • Eating wholesome, nourishing meals to make sure your body is getting the nutrients it needs to run well and keep you feeling good
  • Staying hydrated! Don’t underestimate the power of simply drinking a couple of litres of water daily – dehydration can cause fatigue, headaches and poor digestive function and who can function well when you’ve got those going on?
  • Getting a good night’s sleep. Your body uses this time to rest, repair and detox. Without getting enough each night, your body can’t do any of these properly. Sleep is an issue for many, so I’ll be doing a separate blog post dedicated to helping you get a good, restful night’s sleep!
  • Taking time out to do something just for you. And I mean it, just for you. Something that makes you feel good. It doesn’t matter if it’s just as simple as 15 minutes alone with a cup of tea and a new book. Please find some time to treat yourself to these seemingly small, but very needed things. They’re so good for the soul and ultimately your morale, your mood and your health.

I know in this day and age, it can seem almost impossible to follow all of these every single day. Some days it’s a feat in itself that we simply got through them in one piece. But if we can do most of these things more often than that’s a good start to keeping our vessels from emptying too much too often.

Do you feel like you run on empty frequently? What’s your favourite way to recharge and top up? Share your stories below, I’d love to hear them!



  1. So glad found this. I’ve been feeling like this lately resentful and no “me” time.

    1. I’m glad you found it too! Everyone needs some time to recharge. I have felt that resentment before and it’s not a nice thing to go through, I hope you’re able to fit in some time to refill your cup soon :).

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